kingdoms of amalur the valley of the blessed, who to give the paling wand to?

Answer 1

I think Graem Haille?

see this walkthrough:

Kingdoms of Amalur: Reckoning Walkthrough Part 18 – Galafor Sidequests

Answer 2

Kinda depends on if you want reagents now and future then take to the farm.

But if you want to get gold then tirins rest.